We all ask that at some point. It’s a reflective question about the past. What might have been if the events or actions in our rear view mirror had proceeded in a different fashion? Just cue the Back to the Future trilogy to see how that turned out for Marty and George McFly.
In the absence of a time machine we can’t change what has happened. So it does little good to dwell on it to the point of regret. However, our past is the best teacher for the future. The victories we achieved and the mistakes we endured help us to make thoughtful and wise decisions going forward.
We make mistakes all the time but more so in our youth. This happens for many reasons but mostly because we lack experience, have a difficult time envisioning the future and have a limited sense of our own vulnerability. Arrogance, self-promotion and a live-for-the-moment mentality are all more characteristic of the young than they are the old.
As I reflect on the decade of my 20s I see many mistakes in all facets of life. These are the four that set me back financially and contributed negatively to the growth of my net worth.
Discontinuing Skill Development
All I could see after four years of high school, four years of college and three plus years of graduate work was that the end of school had come. I was sick of school and was done with learning.
My only ambition was to settle into a job and start earning money. I think many can relate to that. You work so hard to get through school to reach that career goal. When it finally comes it feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders. You’ve finally arrived and achieved what you set out to do.
And at that point it’s easy to stop growing.
Oh, you may learn more about your specific field as you gain experience in your job but other beneficial things fall by the wayside.
For me, I quit reading. I had done enough of that in school. Consequently, I didn’t expose myself to personal growth books that would have contributed to my understanding of leadership, management, communication and people skills…all of which would have directly facilitated growth in my career.
Growth in your career contributes to your net worth. When you grow more (i.e. get a promotion or grow your company) you make more. And the sooner you can move forward and make more money in your career the better.
But you can’t move forward unless you continue to develop your skills. Failing to do so will leave you stagnant.
When that first real money came in my 20s with my first real job it was as if I’d died and gone to heaven. Remember that feeling of holding the first big paycheck in your hands? Felt pretty good, didn’t it?
I don’t know about you but I wanted to have fun and spend it all. Of course I didn’t because there were bills to pay and gas to put in the car. Thanks to my wife for pointing those issues out.
But what I failed to do was account for where all my money was going. I knew there were monthly financial obligations (i.e. bills, necessities) that my paycheck would cover. Beyond that I didn’t care. I spent whatever else I wanted on whatever I wanted.
The problem was that I often spent beyond my means. My wife and I would run up our credit card bill without thought of the consequences. We’d “pay if off somehow” or “do better next month” we kept telling ourselves. But the situation never improved.
Had we understood then the value of budgeting money we would have spent a lot less and saved a lot more. That’s what we found happened when budgeting became the modus operandi in our 30s. That savings has contributed directly to our net worth because we’ve been able to put much more towards investing.
Putting together a successful budget and sticking to it is the #1 tool for young people to grow their net worth. I wish we had started earlier.
Living for the Moment vs. Retirement
I mentioned earlier it’s difficult for teens and 20-somethings to project into the future. I certainly couldn’t. All I could see were the trees in front of me. I completed neglected the forest (i.e. the big picture).
So when it came time to purchase our second house in our late 20s we decided upon a real fancy way to help fund our down payment – cash out my wife’s retirement plan from the public school teaching job she’d had for five years before leaving to stay home with our kids.
After taking the tax penalty hit we received just about $5,000. We combined that with our other monies (savings and the profit from the appreciation of our first house) to put down over 20%. We thought we’d made a wise move because my wife was never going to work in the public school system again and we had a more pressing need in the moment for which the money could be used.
There were other ways we could have raised the $5,000. We could have sold some of our stuff or worked a second job for short time. We could have cashed out money from our mutual funds, which would have resulted in less of a tax hit. We could have just borrowed a little more and lumped it into our mortgage.
We should have kept that money in a retirement fund and rolled it over into something we could manage. Had we done so and put the full amount ($5000 + the taxes we paid to cash it out) into the Vanguard 500 Index Fund for example, it would have grown to nearly $15,000 today.
There was no substantial benefit from cashing out her plan. We could have managed our mortgage regardless. We simply were choosing to think in the moment instead of projecting into our future…which is the big issue entirely regardless of the money we lost.
Trying to Speed Rush Investing
The final financial mistake of my 20s that I’d like to share is that I succumbed to the most basic of human frailties when it comes to money – trying to get rich quick.
What money I was using at the time to invest was going into short-term stock plays that I hoped would reap a quick return. Mostly I was trading individual stocks and buying call or put options. I hoped to catch a trend and sell my positions for quick money.
I once even participated in the ultimate risky endeavor – putting down $1,000 to buy stock in a start up company. That didn’t go so well.
There may be people who can make quick money in the market. I was – and my guess is most of you are – not one of them.
I’ve come to learn that investing is a long-term process that requires patience, discipline and emotional courage. It is to be played consistently over many, many years. Fortunately, I learned that lesson in my early 30s so I minimized the damage to my future.
I lost a lot of money in my 20s trying to speed up investing. Had I to do it over, I would have held up a crucifix when I saw those get-rich-quick ideas float across my path.
Be Wise in Your 20s or Your Net Worth Suffers
There is nothing wrong with being a 20-something. I loved that decade of my life. A new life with my wife, travels, new careers and the beginning of our child rearing days all occurred then. I wouldn’t trade those times…they were special.
I just wish I’d known more, been more disciplined and been aware of the tools I could use to motivate me to do the right things. It would have made for an even better decade.
If you are in your 20s you have so much more available to you now than I did in that stage of my life. There are so many online resources to track your net worth. I’ve found monitoring my net worth has kept me motivated and helped me stay the course. Take advantage of the tools out there.
That way you will be more knowledgeable and won’t make the same financial mistakes I did.
Questions: What financial mistakes from your 20s do you regret? If you are in your 20s right now what are you struggling with? What else would you say to someone in their 20s who is looking to get ahead?