On Friday, I commented to my blogging friend Tonya at Budget and the Beach that I was not looking forward to the upcoming weekend. When I realized all the items that were on my to-do list, I sort of felt depressed. I could see there would be absolutely no down time.
After all, aren’t weekends supposed to be relaxing? Most of the time during the school year ours are not, especially during tax season (from Jan. – Apr.) when Mrs. Luke1428 works on Saturday. It feels like the weekends are jammed packed with everything that couldn’t get done Monday – Friday. They become more hectic for me than the actual workweek.
For some perspective, (and I’ll keep this brief) here is what happened in our house the last three days:
Friday after school, I came home and cleaned up the kitchen. We then got ready for our school’s yearly sports banquet that ran that evening from 6:00 – 9:00. After returning home, I was up until 12:30 a.m. doing blog related tasks and writing a guest post.
Saturday morning I hit the yard work. Trimming trees, doing a burn pile and mowing the yard lasted from 8:00 – 2:00. I missed the morning soccer games of my youngest two because I had to be home to monitor the burn pile. (In Georgia, outdoor burning is only allowed from October through April so this was the last weekend I had to get one done.)
After the outdoor work came indoor tasks: laundry, house cleaning, grocery shopping and outlining another guest blog post. That lasted until 6:00. From 6:30 – 8:30 it was dinner with my cousin and her boyfriend at a nice restaurant in town. Then it was back home, tuck the kids in bed and blog/write some more until 11:30.
Sunday brought the usual morning church activities. That was followed by a quick lunch, so we could get off to another soccer game for my daughter, which coincidentally ended in a driving rainstorm. Then it was home for more laundry and writing. Sunday evening youth group followed for my wife and daughter. For me it was making dinner for the remaining kids, walking the dog, and sending some emails. I did manage to talk with my wife for 30 minutes when she got back from youth group before staying up late again to write this post.
And there were several things on my to-do-list I simply couldn’t get to.
Do your weekends (or days in general) look anything like this? Does it ever feel like the water is breaking over the dam and you are powerless to stop it?
It can get very tiresome and discouraging dealing with the pace of life. When I get on edge about it, here are some things I remind myself of:
Realize it’s probably just a season of time. In our house, busyness comes and goes. There really are times when it’s not this hectic. Sometimes I forget that, thinking it’s always going to be this way. For us, my wife’s tax season is now over, soccer season will be winding down in a week and the school year will be ending soon. Not dealing with those three activities will free up significant amounts of time through the summer months.
Realize it’s my choices that brought it on. I have no one to blame but myself for the busyness. My choices resulted in the crazy weekend. I could have done a burn pile weeks ago but didn’t. We didn’t have to sign the kids up for soccer. I don’t have to run a blog.
We make choices everyday that move us backwards, keep us stagnant or propel us forward. We can always evaluate what we are doing and change the course we are on. If I want it to be less hectic then I need to take a look at my own choices and make adjustments where necessary. It’s nobody’s fault but my own and I need to own that responsibility.
Realize it’s not worth getting angry about. Frustration in our choices may set in but that emotion can’t lead to anger. Anger will only inflame the situation. The worst part is that it will most likely be directed at those closest to me – my family.
So I have to keep a level head and roll with the schedule without letting it get to me. If I can accomplish that, it opens me up to the next realization…
Realize that enjoyment can still be found in the busyness. All in all, it turned out to be a great weekend!
My daughter scored a goal at her soccer game.
The kids had an awesome time helping with the burn pile.
I finished writing three blog posts.
All the basic housework tasks were accomplished which is always a bonus.
I had time to spend with family and friends and worship at church on Sunday.
To top it all off, it was an absolutely gorgeous weekend for being outside and enjoying the sites and sounds of springtime.
All that brings me full circle to my final realization which is that…
Our busyness is not as negative as we sometimes make it out to be.
How do you cope when life gets extremely busy? Do you get frustrated for putting yourself in that predicament? Are your weekends crazy or more relaxed?