Today my wife Kim contributes to the Hidden Nuggets Series by discussing what we are learning about life from our boys’ wrestling.
Hidden Nuggets Series #39 – “As iron sharpens iron…” – Proverbs 27:17
We have four great kids, two girls and two boys. Our two boys are aged 11 and 6, and they wrestle – boy do they wrestle. All. The. Time. In their room, in my room, outside, at their sister’s soccer game 2 inches from the sidelines — doesn’t matter, they are wrestling.
I don’t know how it usually starts, but I have a feeling that one of them pokes the other and then off they go. Now, our 11 year old – (I’ll call him Bubbers – long story) – is about twice the size of the 6 year old — (I’ll call him Doot – longer story). When I watch Bubbers and Doot wrestle, it is really no contest. They are having a ton of fun, but Bubbers wins every single time.
It usually takes about 20 seconds or so. Doot will be almost pinned to the ground, usually with an arm raised up in protest, and then boom – Bubbers grabs his wrist and Doot is pinned down flat. Bubbers lets him up, and they’ll start circling around each other to go at it again.
Brian and I have started noticing something though about the outcomes. Bubbers still always wins, but it is starting to take a little longer. Doot has figured out that if he gets down a little and lowers his center of gravity, then he can last just a smidgen longer.
What do you think will happen when Doot gets to be closer to Bubbers’ size?
He is going to dominate these wrestling matches. Why? Because Doot has been wrestling against someone twice his size his whole life. He’s had to figure out different ways to win besides just brute force. So, when the brute force does finally kick in, he’s going to crush Bubbers (and he’s probably going to enjoy that immensely).
Doot is being constantly challenged in these wrestling matches. They are making him better.
Meanwhile, Bubbers is always winning, so there is no need for him to work to get better.
Doesn’t that mirror life?
It is the challenge that stretches us and makes us better. The Bible verse I started with says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” There’s so much to love about this verse especially the imagery of one piece of iron sharpening another. Maybe that’s what Doot feels when he’s wrestling with his brother – that he’s always going up against a piece of iron.
The verse also reminds us that even though it seems rough and painful, this is what one true friend does for another. When I challenge someone else, it shows that I care enough about them to help them get better.
In what ways has someone challenged you to get better in your own life? Is there a way that you can sharpen a friend? What if someone is challenging me to get better…do I take offense at their actions, or realize that it is an act of love? Do I resist the sharpening and try to get away from it or appreciate that it is the pain that is actually strengthening me? Do you have any wrestling moves to help Doot out? Any of your older brothers ever beat up on you?